How to Forgive a Husband Or Boyfriend For Cheating, Infidelity, Or Having an Affair
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There is nothing more violating to a person than a spouse cheating or having an affair. Infidelity is one of the most damaging things that can ever happen in a marriage. Even in many religions including Christianity, a spouse being unfaithful is grounds for divorce.

In this article, I will give you the best advice that I can to help forgive a husband or boyfriend that cheated. Though an emphasis is put on the husband in this article, because often a husband is considered much more committed.

1. Sit down with your husband. Ask him if he is truly sorry to the depths of his soul for his affair or infidelity. If your husband is sorry, he will elaborate and be extremely sincere about the apology.

2. A lady must understand that sometimes men fall into the sin and temptation of lust. Often it is merely for sex and not for companionship. Emphasis put on the physical and not emotional or bonding. This is an important thing to ask your husband as some women find a slight amount of comfort knowing that their husband cheated or had an affair strictly based on physical reasons, and had no emotional attachment at all.

3. As anger and shame give in to you, it often helps to consider your own imperfections in life. If you are a Christian it helps to consider that we all have fallen short of the glory of God. Though you may be innocent in this matter, at some point of life you must understand that you as well have sinned against your heavenly father. We are all imperfect and have faults. Though your sins may have not not been as great as an affair and infidelity, we are still told to look at the planks in our own eye rather than the splinters of others.

4. Tell your husband how badly this has hurt you, how it feels. Elaborate and do not just use one liners. Do not just say "It made me feel so bad and hurt". A better more elaborated thing to say is something that describes your feelings about the infidelity and affair in more detail such as - "It violated me to the core of my person, my soul, all that I stand for, and damaged my hope of a sound marriage".

5. Do not threaten him with a divorce if he has another affair or practices infidelity again, rather tell him that this is his free an open choice, and if he wants to commit adultery that he needs to be on his own.

6. Ask your husband to promise you for all of eternity that he will forever remain loyal to you and that he will never have another affair. Tell him you wish him to remain loyal to you as a real spouse.

7. Begin to understand that you are not the only person who has ever faced an affair or have been cheated on in their lives. Think of all the moments in history through countless years that people have had to suffer through infidelity of their spouse. Sometimes it helps to understand "you are not the only one who has been through this".

8. For religious people, it greatly helps to kneel down together and pray that God re-bless your marriage, be a part of your marriage, and to heal your marriage. Also pray that God will heal your heart, and cast all burdens and weights off your heart regarding this sin of the affair.

9. It helps to either privately renew your vows or go before a pastor or priest who will do so.

10. Ultimately you must close this chapter of the infidelity or affair. Slam shut the cheating and broken trust. Cast it out of your life so that it will not haunt you through the rest of your life. Time will also help heal.