Sometimes men can be dirty dogs, sometimes they are innocent and you are just being concerned or paranoid.

Since a cheating husband who is having an affair would obviously be very harmful to a marriage, I'm writing this article to help bring you assurance to whether there is actual cheating going on or not.

Infidelity has very clear signs if you know what to look for.

1. Realize if your spouse is with you every single night next to you, they are most likely NOT cheating or having an affair. Men will sleep with women over night whom they are cheating with in MOST cases.

2. A cheating man will not show you as much interest or any interest at all. He will often be infatuated with somebody for a given time. You'll feel like extra baggage (his OLD lady). He'll be slurry and sly, and often will meet you with anger if you ask him where he has been with any investigation in your voice. (ie How dare you accuse me of...) Your husband will be incredibly "distant" if he is having an affair.

3. A cheating man will have a different smell & zeal about him. You'll absolutely notice the change and it will be obvious. This isn't something you will have to 2nd guess 50 times. Having an affair brings unfamiliar smells and zeals.

4. Secret quiet phone calls are another sign. This does not apply when the kids in the house are being loud and he seeks privacy for a work phone call. Rather, these calls are usually late at night and he goes to extreme levels to keep the call from being overheard. An affair takes communication and he will need to do talk with the other person.

5. An honest man leaves his phone on the "landing strip" of his house. He doesn't always conceal it or "hide it" from you. Never grab his phone in accusation, but if he's honest, he'll probably not care and just leave it where he leaves his keys (or charger). An husband who commits infidelity in his marriage hides a lot of "clues".

6. Simply ask him. Just tell him that if he is having an affair, that you'd rather be honest with you about it than making you crazy and guessing. Do this without emotions in your voice. Men naturally think in logic not emotion.

7. Many web sites explain to look for "unexplained" phone calls and lipstick on the collars etc. This stuff rarely happens. His whereabouts, openness, and honesty are the best clues. If he's sly, shady, dodgy, doesn't have good explanations of his whereabouts or details of them, is not home many nights, or reacts to your questioning in fierce anger, he's most likely cheating.

If he's almost always at home at night (with GOOD reason to not be), talks with you, is generally honest and open, and shows interest for his children and home, doesn't hide his phone or act "secretly", he is most likely not cheating or having an affair.* If you are REALLY freaked out, hire a Private Investigator. They'll bring you closure.

Understand that a man who is NOT cheating will be insulted that you do not trust him like he thinks you should, but will usually explain his whereabouts if calmly asked. He will have sources, references, or phone calls about the "event" that made him absent. Also he will be much more detailed about the event that he did or attended.